Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Vicki Jeanne Porter

I guess people come into our lives for a reason. Vicki came into mine for lots of reasons, I think. She was just what I needed, just when I needed it.

We emailed. My husband thought it was hilarious that we lived about 1/4 of a mile apart, but did we pick up the phone? No. Did we run over to each other's house for a chat? No. We sat down at the computer and quietly supported each other. She was so much better at all the technological computer stuff, but she was so patient with my ignorance. I never did get the hang of attachments...

We went to lunch. What is it about going to lunch with a friend? It was...priceless. So many good times and happy memories. And coupons for new places out of the newspaper.

We laughed. Almost every one of her entries had at least one comment that made me *LOL*. And sometimes I really needed that after a long day.

We rolled our eyes. Life is just ridiculous sometimes and we made the most of that. It is funny when you know somebody well, how a little roll of the eyes in their direction across the room can communicate volumes. It makes me giggle just thinking about it.

We learned new things. Like she taught me the meaning of the word *shattered.* (That is when you are really, really tired.) And *scattered* is just a little bit before you are shattered. And she taught me that the VF Mall is called the VF Mall because it is the Very Far Mall.

She liked Bashas. I like Frys. She loved computer games. I don't. (Probably because she could beat them and I can't.) She liked Victorian, I like Traditional. She liked beige. I like red. Did it matter? No.


We kept in touch. I'm so grateful.


VJ left me a great friend's legacy. She was a dedicated mother. Nothing came before her family. She taught me about keeping on keeping on and hanging in there. She taught me about doing hard things. She taught me about love unfeigned and unconditional acceptance. She called me Clee. Nobody else on earth calls me Clee.

I'm not ready to let her go. Do you think there is email in heaven?








7 comments:

Kate said...

That made me cry, but mostly happy tears, because I feel so blessed to also have very good friends (and family too!) Thanks for a bright side to today!

Marilyn said...

I send you my deepest sympathies-I saw that she had passed away in the paper......so so sorry....

The Wizzle said...

If there's not email in heaven, then I don't wanna go. :) Great friends really are priceless.

angiedunn said...

This made me cry too...Vicki was awesome & she will be missed...

runningfan said...

This is the kind of friendship I'm going to miss when I leave...what a beautiful tribute.

Coree Adams said...

I truly believe that no matter how we send a message to heaven our loved ones will get it. Friends like that will make heaven an extra special place to be.

HooHoo said...

Amen to the rest of the comments. Vicki was a sweet, practical, fun, funny sister and your tribute was perfect. It is friendships like yours that make us look forward to the next life.